Find the best way to get your ex to forgive you for lying or cheating and take you back as your girlfriend or boyfriend. These tips will help you get a second chance from your ex.
Getting your ex to forgive you is not an easy task, especially if you have hurt them real bad or betrayed their trust. However, if you want your ex to forgive and accept you back in their life then you need to show them that you are truly apologetic. You need to make it clear that this won’t ever happen again. Even after that the task is not over, not even remotely, because your ex may need some time to think about it and to truly accept you back.
So you have to be really patient with them and show them with words and with action how you have changes. Only after that they will be able to accept you back in their life at least in some capacity. Then you may work on your relationship, whatever it is, to get their respect back and maybe even gradually winning their heart. So if you truly want to get your ex to forgive you then here is one of the ways you can try to get it.
ACCEPT YOUR MISTAKES
First and foremost you need to accept your mistakes. Just accept that you made a mistake, register and then move on. The truth is, in order for them to see that you are apologetic you should at least accept that you made a mistake as then only you would be able to display it. And because you have broken their trust in some form they won’t simple accept a lame ass apology. So it needs to be genuine and for that you need to truly accept your mistakes and take responsibility for them.
Don’t be stubborn instead look at it from their perspective. Think why this person is hurt so much? The reason is they loved you so much and in no way expected you to do what you did. Once you get the idea of how they feel you will automatically start empathizing with them. So just try looking at this mistake from their perspective and you would understand them a lot more.
MAKE A PLAN
You can’t just go to them ask their forgiveness. It doesn’t work that way and it’s too risky because you can cause more damage than before. If you want your ex to forgive you or at least consider forgiving you then you need to make a plan. This way you will know exactly what to do and how to do it. So to make a proper plan here are some questions you will need to answer.
WHAT TO SAY?
You know what you want to say basically that you are sorry and you will never do it again. But quite frankly you don’t actually know the words that you want to say. That’s what this question is for. So sit down and jot some of the things that you would like to say to them. Keep in mind that this can be your very last conversation with them if they don’t actually accept your apology. Remember not to blame them or anyone else for your mistakes. Take full responsibility for them and remember to actually say the words “I am Sorry.” You will be surprised at how much you want say to them.
WHEN TO SAY?
This is important as well. You can say you are sorry and leave but they actually need to process what you just said so think about them before you choose a place and time. Remember not to do it in a crowded place instead try doing it in a semi public place where you two can talk and listen to each other properly. Another thing is to try and give them some space before you start piling up all this emotions on them. I mean they haven’t yet got out of emotional hell that you put them through and now here you are again asking for their forgiveness. At least give them a day to think about it and at most a week because you don’t want them to feel like you don’t care.
HOW TO SAY?
You need to understand that you are the guilty party here and not them. So don’t start acting like a jerk when they dismiss something you say. Be gentle and patient because you have just put this person through a lot of pain. Remember to show some gratitude as even now they agreed to see you. Keep your sentence short and direct and don’t cut them off when your ex boyfriend or girlfriend isspeaking. Just be patient with them.
AFTER EFFECT OF ASKING FORGIVENESS
After you have asked for forgiveness from your ex there are going to be some reactions and here is how you need to handle them.
Aye, it’s true you have asked for forgiveness but if you are laughing when doing that then it just makes the matter worst, now doesn’t it? You need to show some regret and even more so feel it, for all the pain you have caused this person. Moreover if you don’t feel that regret then why even bother apologizing. I mean if you don’t think you did anything wrong then why are you even apologizing. So if you are truly sorry then I don’t think showing regret would be difficult for you.
It’s obvious that you are not the only one who’s going to talk during this entire conversation. So when they do talk, please do not interrupt them instead try listening to them. This way you will end up learning something about how they feel right now and it might even give you some clue on how to show them that you are truly sorry.
Patience is the key to this whole process. If you are not a patient person then getting them to forgive you is going to be quite difficult for you. Another instance when you may have to be patient is when they start talking and are using harsh words towards you. The thing that you need to keep in mind is that they are feeling hurt and you are the cause of that feeling. They don’t really mean what they are saying but they can’t help themselves in this situation. So you need to help them by being patient and not getting angry in return.
LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES
The person who keeps repeating the same mistakes again and again all the while expecting different result is the definition of an insane person, at least that’s what Albert Einstein said. So if you are not willing to learn from your mistakes then you, my friend, are a definition of an insane person. In other words you need to learn from your mistake as it might help you in the future and it will also show when you are apologizing.
Since you have accepted that you made a mistake and are willing to learn from it, you wouldn’t be shocked if I say that you need to make some changes in life. No, I am just saying that in order for your ex to even consider forgiving you they would, at the very least, require some changes. So here are two steps of change that you need to go through to get considered as a changed person.
PROMISE OF CHANGE
First is promise of change. As you may have heard that “Everything starts with a dream” similarly before you could actually change you will need a promise of change. Keep in mind that this promise you are not making to anybody else but in fact you are promising yourself that you would change. In all honesty I don’t know if you can really lie to yourself but if you have that talent then you need to right these promises down. This will serve as a reminder so you don’t break those promises you made yourself to change and become a better person.
You may also have heard another phrase commonly accompanied the phrase I used before. It goes something like “If you will it, it will happen”. Now that you have made yourself a promise of change, you one step closer to actually changing. If you try hard enough for a while it will start getting easier with time. That’s the beauty of it; if you could just take one step forward in a positive direction the world will come rushing to help you. Your ex may not come yet, but the world will and soon your ex will hear about how much you have changed. This will definitely intrigue them to at least agree to meet with you again just to have a talk maybe.
Getting forgiveness from other is easy, but requires a lot of patience. However, truly forgiving yourself is difficult especially when you agree that you have made a big mistake. The truth is some people are never able to forgive themselves and so they seek others to forgive them. But the fact is if you can forgive yourself and can live with mistakes you have made then it would be easier to change and perhaps even get your ex to forgive you. Lastly, I would just ask you to have patience as it’s the only thing that can get you through this.