Why do women fall in love with bad guys instead of nice ones? Here is a list of common reasons why good guys never get the girl, finish last and stay single.
You’ve probably wondered why girls have always been attracted to the bad guys, and consider the good ones as friends. Many girls may also wonder about this in endless nights of tears and romantic movies, while they reproach themselves for having fallen in love with such a bad boy. And then comes the typical question: “Where are the good guys?”. The truth is you know where they are, but you’re too busy trying to win back the bad guy who broke your heart.
The truth is that all women like to be treated with respect and kindness, so they want a man with good morals. That guy will be good to you, give you flowers, be respectful to your family and care for you. However, instead of choosing that dreamy man, the women go after that consummate idiot. They fall for an arrogant boy, extremely flirtatious and that makes us doubt if they are really interested.
In fact, always looking at the typical idiots is a true mystery of which many girls have all been victims. We cannot bear his lack of communication and little transparency, but even so, we are intrigued by that mysterious personality that does not make it clear what will happen next.
In the end, when the text messages are not answered, the dates are not met and the guy appears tagged in photos with other attractive women makes them look challenging than the good guys. This is what women like and want to be with. A research has concluded that women prefer men who are seen hanging out more with girls. Having said that, here are main reasons why good guys finish last and most the bad guy wins the girl.
GOOD GUYS ARE BUSY
This is typical. As much as women want men to give them time, to believe that his time is occupied is exciting. It shows you have many friends, spend time with your family or are too busy with your studies or work. The idea of this seems phenomenal because women feel that this keeps guys look sexy. I’m busy for a bad boy means that it is an excuse and is simply leaving you or continuing with another girl. A good guy definitely would not reject any invitation and hence they get friend zoned and stay single.
GOOD GUYS DO NOT LOOK GOOD PROTECTORS
Perhaps this goes back to the days of our caveman ancestors, but historically, men have always protected women. Good guys do not even seem to be able to defend themselves, much less their girl. Although there is not a giant mammoth trying to get the girl, but there are still thieves and bad guys, and women want to feel that whoever is with them can take care of this. The weakness in the personality is the reason why good guys never get the girl and stay single.
GOOD GUYS PUSH THEMSELVES TOO HARD
Good guys put women on a pedestal and act as if they were some kind of goddess. They would throw themselves into the sea for their love. They declare their feelings too fast, not with words, but with their actions and leave aside their own needs for theirs. Women are human too, and they do not need to be put on a pedestal from which it is very easy to fall.
THE FLIRTY CHAT
An bad boy always has the tendency to be more charismatic than usual. They always seemed to know how and when to say the right words to provoke girls. Maybe it’s an insult or a nice compliment, but the way he says it seems lovely to you and leaves you wanting more.
Usually, bad guys are experts in flirting. They know what to tell you and how to do it so that you fall into their networks. This makes women addicted to them. Women almost always want what they cannot have, or what they cannot easily have. When the people are very friendly they seem to be very achievable. You want someone with whom there is palpable sexual tension.
THEY ARE PREDICTABLE
One of the reason why good guys never get the girl is because they are too predictable. Many people live quite predictable lives: He marries, has two children, goes to work, retires. Women do not want to stick to this by dating a guy who is going to be so predictable that they will know every single one of their moves. They all like a bit of novelty and spontaneity. Women want to know that they are going to have fun with the guy they are with, and not that they will have a festival of yawning.
GOOD GUYS LOOK FLUFFY
Good guys almost never raise their voices when something irritates them and rarely do they know what they want or need. This is because of the fear of a conflict that will result in losing their girl. Letting people trample you without setting any limits indicates that you probably do not have character. Without character there is no respect because it is difficult to respect a guy who lets others treat him badly. Also, if you are too afraid to kick the board, this also indicates that you probably would not stop to defend her either. And that is not attractive to any woman.
THEY EXPECT KINDNESS
Good guys expect kindness because they are so super sweet that people should respond lovingly to them. The problem is that they leave their own emotions and feelings in the back seat, on behalf of other people and when the others do not reciprocate, they play the role of victim. No woman wants to deal with a guy who has a martyr complex.
THEY SEEM TO PRETEND
Good guys may seem too good. But even Mahatma Gandhi and Nelson Mandela have a limit. No one can be sweet as sugar all the time unless he is a saint. If you are too good with each person who crosses you, it seems that you are pretending more than genuine kindness. You cannot like everyone or be happy in every situation. If you find yourself putting a happy face perpetually it may be time to re-examine your real feelings and let them go. This shows that you are a real person with real feelings and not that you are acting.
GOOD GUYS ARE NOT A CHALLENGE
Some men are so kind that they do anything you want to make a girl happy. They meet their needs and are put at the end of the priorities. In the middle of a storm they would walk naked looking for a coffee if that is what the girl likes. They do not challenge the girl at all and which is why good guys never get the girl. For them you’re always right. They do not argue back or share their opinions. They are consumed by the desire to please you that they hide their personalities and desires completely, so much so that things get dry and boring. And that’s not how things are with bad guys, they do the opposite.
Good guys make it easy to eat candies and fries on the couch. They give that feeling that they are never going to go, so women do not worry about looking good, because you do not think it will even matter. Women seek to be with someone who presents challenges to them and that maintains the relationship. Challenge their ideas, debate, make them work to keep you stay with them and that makes the relationship more interesting.
GOOD GUYS SEEM INSECURE
Good guys are so eager to like and be accepted that you never know if they really like you or want to be with you because you paid them attention. On the other hand, for those looking for a free drink, good guys are simply stupid, and it’s easy to take advantage of them. You are the one who teaches others how to treat you, so if you act insecure and needy, people (that includes women) will treat you as such. Insecurity in addition, is the most in-exciting.
BAD IN BED
To women nice guys do not look like they’ll be good in bed. Being a good guy is very difficult to be an omen that you are good in bed. Women enjoy being with a man who can take control and bring them to fruition. Being soft, sweet and gentleman all the time is not the sexiest vibration. A woman wants to know that a man is going to go to smoke, not that he will treat her like a piece of porcelain in bed.
GOOD GUYS DO NOT BEHAVE LIKE MEN
Nice guys think that always asking their opinion makes them sensitive, but they are often annoying. Women want a guy who can take over and choose the restaurant, create a plan or make a decision. Always asking you before you decide is irritating and makes you look like you do not have balls.
Women love a man who treats them well, but also men who have guts and who have the ability to speak for themselves. They seek to feel protected and to know that the type with which they are will take care of their backs no matter what. To say that women do not like you because you are a “good guy” is to run the bulge. Yes, they are not going to like a guy who she thinks is weak and acts as a doormat. Be expressive and have the confidence to anything and you will attract any girl you want.